Okay, I get it, it’s the New Year and everyone wants to be thin. The advertisers are pushing slimming plans and exercise dvds like the most blatant of drug pushers (“go on, try it, it’s good stuff, you know you want it, it’ll change your life…”), and sandwiched between the ads are various programmes about “fighting fat” (or rather, punishing fat people – seriously: making a 32 stone man ‘run’ 5k cross country against the clock?!). Nearly every woman’s magazine cover features either a ‘slimming success’ story or a ‘shock, horror she’s let herself go (again)’ fat story.

But it’s just the media, right? Not everyone wants to be thin. Not everyone is going to buy into the advertising messages or listen to the shouty gym instructors on TV and immediately jump off their sofa.

Just the media. Hmmm?

So why I am writing about this? Because I’m ANGRY that these voices are the loudest in the room. I’m furious that every-day people end up feeling rotten about themselves because they are only given one ideal to aspire to. And I’m so very sad that there are so many people who feel their bodies aren’t worthy of enjoyment because they don’t “look” right.three venus figurines

A survey last year found that over 50% of women avoided sex because they felt too overweight. Many women lack confidence in their bodies because they are anxious about what their partner thinks of their wobbly bits. And even if their partner loves their wobbly bits (as is often the case), the women themselves don’t feel confident because they don’t see their bodies as attractive.

Compared to whom?

There is a wonderful Osho Zen Tarot card about comparison:

Who ever told you that the bamboo is more beautiful than the oak, or the oak more valuable than the bamboo? Do you think the oak wishes it had a hollow trunk like the bamboo? Does the bamboo feel jealous of the oak because it is bigger and its leaves change colour in the fall? The very idea of the two trees comparing themselves to each other seems ridiculous, but we humans seem to find this habit very hard to break… The way to find out who you are is not by comparing yourself with others, but by looking to see whether you are fulfilling your own potential in the best way you know how. (Osho Zen Tarot, 1994)

So if you want to be happier and healthier this year by all means explore what kinds of nutrition and exercise will best help you to achieve that, but PLEASE don’t compare yourself to the unhelpful images we see in the media. And PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE don’t neglect other aspects of your potential, especially your potential to be a juicy, confident, sexual woman (or man). Our bodies have an extraordinary capacity for pleasure and enjoyment, why should we avoid or defer our pleasure simply because of our size or shape?

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  1. Bloomin’ WELL SAID!!!

  2. JillyBoyd

     /  January 8, 2012

    Brilliant! xx

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